How I try to live beautifully in this moment


This moment is the only moment of our life. The past is a memory, the future is our imagination. We must live deeply in this moment, live with intensity and make this moment as beautiful as it can be. When we live life with this moment-by-moment awareness, there is no doubt that everything will change for the better.

“Live in the moment” is something that we often hear, and yet sometimes, it runs the risk of being too conceptual – leaving us not really knowing how to make that happen.

But this is something that feels increasingly important to me, increasingly vital to my happiness.

You see, how you do anything is how you do everything. How you live in this moment is how you live your life. We have to make it the absolute best it can be.

We cannot know what will happen tomorrow, we cannot even know for sure what will happen in the next moment. We can make plans, but we can never know for sure. I have come to realize that the only way to live happily and in the best way, is to make the best of this moment – because that will put you in the best position for the next moment. Life is connected that way.

But I needed a real way to experience it. I needed real guidelines that I could follow to increase my awareness, mindfulness and perception in my day-to-day life.

So, I keep three things in mind, before beginning any new task during my day – and I would like to share them with you today.

1. Remind myself.

First, before any task, I remind myself. I remind myself that I am alive in this moment, and I don’t have to be. I could have died. There’s really no guarantee in life, and I am sick of living like I am invincible. I’m so far from it, I’m not so special that death would spare me. I’m tired of living thinking that death is something that happens to other people but never to me, never to the ones I love.

Talking about death is something that makes a lot of people uncomfortable, but death is not morbid. Death is as beautiful and as crucial as birth. And realizing my own mortality has been such an eye-opening experience.

So I remind myself that I am alive, and I have this moment to be here and be in this moment. I am so grateful for another moment of life. It fills me with a sense of urgency and intensity when I realize that I simply cannot waste it.

2. Make it lovely

My second intention is to make each moment as lovely, as beautiful as it can be – to do this, before each task I begin, I look at what I am about to spend my time on, and do what is necessary to make it more pleasant.

For example, the next thing I am about to is read a textbook to study for my upcoming exams.

Not a very pleasant task. But, necessary.

Without any forethought, I might sit on my chair, hunch over the book, and force myself to digest the information. I might be a bit uncomfortable, a little chilly, a little distracted, a little restless, a little anxious, a little resistant.

But now I am focusing on making this moment, and every moment in my day, pleasant and lovely.

So I can put on my fuzzy soft bath robe that I love (yes, these September mornings are definitely cooling down. It’s time to bring my fluffy robe that makes me feel like a marshmallow back into the routine.)

I can light my coconut milk mango candle.

I can sit comfortably, in a soft place.

I can have a tidy space around me, free from clutter.

I can open a window, let the cool new fall breeze seep into the room.

I can use my favourite highlighter and pen for writing notes. I can set them beside me.

I can sip on fresh lemonade. I have a bowl of fresh pomegranate next to me to snack on.

Suddenly -this moment is welcoming to me. My life is lovely in that moment.

Keeping this in mind, I try to do this with everything I do in my day, and it has made all the difference.

3. Make it intense

My next focus is to complete that task, and to live my day with a certain level of intensity.

I want intensity because I don’t want to live a mediocre life. I do not want to live like…meh.

I want results. I want to get somewhere. I don’t want to do things just because I should/need to/have to/want to, and not get where I need to be. I do not want to waste my time anymore. I want every action I do generate some sort of force and power in my life. With intensity comes transformation. When you are intense about something – things change. If you are intense when you work out, your body changes. If you work out like “meh”, then change is paralyzed, or excruciatingly slow.

When every moment in your life becomes a tool for transformation and change, your entire life will change.

There is one small exercise I do that helps increase my level of intensity. It requires a 5 minute commitment before every task you do. It’s worth it.

5 minutes before any task I have to do – I spend 5 minutes thinking about it. 5 minutes is a long time to think about one thing.

Suppose I have to clean a room in our apartment. I spend 5 minutes thinking about cleaning – how I am going to clean it, where I am going to start, what I’m going to use, what exactly it’s going to involve etc.

My thoughts on the subject are usually exhausted by 2 minutes, and i’m desperately itching to start. But no – I make myself keep thinking about it for the remaining 3 minutes. It’s excruciating. I builds up so much energy within me, to just go out there and DO.

And then when the 5 minutes have elapsed, I begin my work, and I work with more intensity, more power, more focus, and I usually always finish the task faster and more efficiently, than I thought I would.

I hope these three steps of bringing life and consciousness to each moment of your life can be helpful for you. They have made a big difference in how I live my day to day life.

You know how they say – take care of the minutes and the hours will take care of themselves. When I take care of each moment, and find life in each moment, my life transforms. I can feel the changes within me.

I have just returned from a 4 day Inner Engineering course, and I have so much to share with you about this incredible experience. I will write to you soon about that. For now, this post has been sitting in my drafts for some time, so here it is.

I have a question for you – are there any things you do that keep you here in the moment? How do you live your moments?

Love always



  1. Wow Malavika! You definitely gave me some new tips here….thank you for sharing your thoughts in the most beautiful way possible:)

  2. Beautiful ! ! !……. Malavika …….but………I need your help

    LIVE IN THE MOMENT ! This moment is the only moment in life …….. I just received your mail …..I ‘m in my office in Rio De Janeiro Brazil , with a mental depression …..maybe because of many urgent money problems ….. How can I ‘’ LIVE THE MOMENT ‘’ with a negative cash flow and my bankers sending mails regarding $$$ ???


    1. Hi Romualdo!

      I’m sorry to hear that you are facing some challenges at the moment. You bring up a good point thought – how can you be in the moment if you have an urgent problem that needs to be solved. It’s difficult, and it makes it “this moment” frightening and unbearable. But you still need to live in it.

      We all have to solve our problems. Be here, in this moment, and seriously look at what changes you need to make in your life to solve your debt/money problems. There isn’t any magical solution for that, and no amount of spirituality can solve such matters. It’s part of your life, and you need to try to find a solution for this. I don’t know the details of your situation, nor am I qualified to give any financial advice. But I think you need to look closely at your life and see what you can do.

      Regarding your depression, maybe a lot of that is rooted in your financial problems – so solving that problem will probably release some of the pressure you feel.

      But to learn to live happily – that is the beginning of a great inner journey of your life. What has worked for me is to practice meditation, yoga, spend time with people who uplift you, read about topics that uplift you, in order to learn a new way to live, be and feel in this world.

      My wish for you is that you will find a way to be happy. Stay in touch, keep reading – there are plenty of articles I have written here that discuss the very issues you might be dealing with.


  3. Great tips! I have shifted my thinking from I “have” to do something to I “get” to do something. For example, I have to buy groceries becomes I get to buy groceries. This small change creates a state of abundance in everything I do.

    I also have been starting my day by setting the intention that my goal for the day is to experience and inspire all that is in favor of the greatest good. For me, I need to give the Universe some space to seep into my plans and work its magic. If I become too focused and rigid I miss out on opportunities that unexpectedly present themselves to me.

    1. Wow, I love that so much, and such a great but simple technique to switch from obligation to freedom. Thank you for sharing that!

      I agree with you about creating space in your life for magic and grace to seep in. Life has so many twists and turns, and they are so important to getting us to where we need to be – even if we don’t see it right away. You’ve given me lots of food for thought.


  4. That’s absolutely beautiful malvika, I alwasy love reading your articles on this blog but this one is one that has touched my heart. I am going to try it, it’s going to be difficult. In this day and age humans just want more and more in their lives some want success, some want money and forget about enjoying what they already have A LIFE. Thankyou for sharing.

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