According to the Vedas there are 7 types of relationships that we can experience in our lives. These 7 categories of relationships achieve a certain type of harmony between two people that correspond to our 7 chakra centers: your root center, sacral chakra, solar plexus, heart center, throat chakra, brow chakra (third eye center), and crown chakra.
You can read a brief description of how chakras affect our motives to create harmony in relationships in my first post on The Root Chakra Couple here.
I will be doing a short series of blog posts regarding these 7 energy centers, and the kinds of relationships that tend to emerge from these influences.
Today we will discuss the Sacral Chakra Couple.
The Sacral Chakra Couple; an overview
The Sacral chakra is the spiritual energy center connected to happiness, confidence and resourcefulness. It is also linked to the negative shades of greed, fear and self preservation. A couple that makes a connection through their sacral chakra, create a love that is based on a mutual desire for comfort and wealth. This chakra is influenced by the planet Venus. When this couple come together they first harmonize on the sacral level, and over time the root chakra may open up as well. This will result in the pleasures and also challenges of The Root Chakra couple also coming to play in the dynamic of their relationship. Their Sacral couple’s mutual desire for wealth and comfort appears to be more stable than the Root Chakra couple, but the Sacral chakra is still considered one of the lower energy centers – and so, it will continue to bring more opportunities for unhappiness, than it does for happiness.
Of course, it is not wrong to desire a comfortable life, or to want to have a beautiful and cozy home. The troubles arise when the couples make attaining this material success the main goal of their relationship – and that’s what the sacral couple tend to do.
The goal of the sacral chakra couple
To have a comfortable life. To own cozy house, beautiful furniture, flashy cars etc. To create their own cozy, comfortable and wealthy home together.
Where does the sacral chakra couple meet?
Expensive restaurants, beautiful resorts, elite dinner parties, work events.
The sacral relationship: option 1
A young woman desires financial stability and so finds a wealthy man with good social connections, and she finds that she feels secure around him. She believes that this is the man for her, however she has not taken the time to pay attention to any of his character, his behavior, his tendencies, his personality, and other aspects, regarding who he is as a person. He simply needs to demonstrate that he has money, a good car, a nice house, and even if he does not have it now, he must demonstrate that he has the potential to provide it in the near future – and she will be satisfied with him.
In order to find this, she will try to socialize with the elite communities within her society. She will go to expensive restaurants, beautiful resorts, elegant dinner parties and other such places. She will wear stylish clothes and hold a high opinion of herself. She knows how to behave in upper class societies. They often meet their man in university or at work.
The man, on the other hand, has a similar desire for prosperity and a comfortable life. He is very attracted by bright girls from wealthy families. They will meet and fall in love.
The relationship between the sacral couple will grow at a slower rate than the root chakra couple – because they first need to assess how rich and cool their partner is, before they agree to be with them.
The sacral relationship: option 2
Two people meet who do not have much financial stability yet, but both recognize that all they want in their life is to gain material success. This is what family happiness will be to them. They will work hard so they can buy the latest model television etc. All their efforts and energies goes towards making their home cozier. They will make sure their home is just as they like it, before they think about creating a family together.
The sacral relationship: option 3
A poor man marries a rich girl. He thinks he is very lucky and believes that having her in his life will lead him to become more prosperous.
Or it could be that a rich man marries a poor girl. The girl at first, believes she is very lucky to have found such a wealthy husband, and the man, at first, feels happy and comfortable to have a housewife. At first, they don’t have time to argue with each other, since their primary goal is to bring comfort to their home. During this period the couple are very enthusiastic and motivated to work hard. They buy a lot of new beautiful things for their life together. They live for the dream that they will have a beautiful home and soon, will not have to work so much anymore. But they don’t realize that it will never be enough for them, and their list of things that they need, and need to work for to pay off, will keep increasing and increasing. They need a new car. They need to pay for their children’s good education at a prestigious institute etc. While they work diligently to create this, they are constantly wishing for a more peaceful and comfortable life.
Challenges of the Sacral Couple
The main challenge in this relationship is realizing that they will never have enough. They will never be completely satisfied with what they have. Material things get old, and before long, they will be working hard to renew the things they already have- to upgrade, to buy newer and flashier versions of the same thing. Whenever they get extra money they will spend it on a relaxing vacation or on gifts for their family members.
They follow the ideal that if they work hard now and make enough money, they can relax in the future and have a peaceful life together. But by the way things go, the majority of their life will be in hard labour. Even after they have gained some kind of financial stability, they will feel that they still can’t get away from their busy lifestyles. At some point they will feel mental and physical exhaustion, and maybe get sick more often because of it.
If some kind of family emergency or crisis occurs within the family, and the couple becomes briefly distracted from their regular day-to-day routine, they will find that they find it hard to discuss anything with their partners other than finances. This causes dissatisfaction and depression, because they feel like all their hard work is simply not understood or appreciated by the other family members. This is where the conflicts begin.
The fate of the sacral couple
Relationships based on the sacral center are generally more stable, and have the capacity to last a lifetime together. However, because the couple are unable to cultivate true understanding towards each other, they will find it hard to find true happiness within the relationship too.
Often, if the couple faces a financial crisis, they both quickly lose sight of their main motive of their family life and happiness. They blame each other for spoiling their life and divorce.
Sometimes one of the couple meets someone else in society who they deem is more successful and respectable and leaves their relationship under the pretense that “we do not have anything in common.”
Sometimes the children who grow up within this family dynamic can bring their parents suffering too. They will need to work on themselves, and try to get rid of the selfishness in themselves.
In order to change their fate, the sacral couple need to start fulfilling their own duties within their family, without worrying about if their partner is doing the same. All it takes is just one person. They also need to take the time to teach their children to be unselfish.
Read the book “Laws of a happy family life” by Dr. Oleg Torsunov here.
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