According to the Vedas there are 7 types of relationships that we can experience in our lives. These 7 categories of relationships achieve a certain type of harmony between two people that correspond to our 7 chakra centers: your root center, sacral chakra, solar plexus, heart center, throat chakra, brow chakra (third eye center), and crown chakra.
To define briefly – chakras are spiritual energy centers in your body located at the following points.
Your chakras are the energetic centers of your lightbody, your spiritual body. Each chakra controls different areas of your life, and when you can balance and cleanse your chakras, you begin to balance and cleanse your life simultaneously. The state of your chakras can influence many aspects of your life, including marriages and romantic relationships – which is the topic of today’s blog post.
According to the Vedas, the chakra that is most active in your relationship determines your ambitions and goals within your relationship. So if your relationship is based from your root chakra, your understanding of family happiness in your marriage will be under the influence of the powers governed by your root chakra. The lower chakras (Root, sacral and solar plexus) tend to bring more opportunities for unhappiness, whereas the higher centers (Heart, throat, brow and crown) yield more opportunities for happiness. We can work our way through the chakra centers and achieve higher levels. When we can activate higher centers, the lower ones open beautifully and by themselves too.
I will be doing a short series of blog posts regarding these 7 energy centers, and the kinds of relationships that tend to emerge from these influences.
Let’s begin today with the lowest energy center – the root chakra.
The Root Chakra Couple:
The root chakra is connected to our primal instincts. It is greatly influenced by our sexual energy. I call it our ‘survival instinct chakra’ – because it’s sexual energy motivates us to have children and continue our lineage and because it motivates us to stay alive, and can keep us away from physical danger. The root chakra is also connected with selfishness and ego – two factors that are of utmost important to those who are motivated to survive. We use our selfishness to protect our needs, and we use our ego to protect our emotions.
The goal of the root chakra couple
The root chakra couple are motivated by their enjoyment of each other.
Where does the root chakra couple meet?
They usually meet in night clubs, bars, parties, or other places of entertainment. Of course there are relationships under the influence of higher chakras that may also meet at these locations, merely by happenstance, but the key differentiation here is that, there couples tend to go to these places IN ORDER TO FIND their future husband/wife. The women are usually attracted to how attractive or cool the man looks.
An overview of their relationship:
Root chakra couples are ruled by the planet mars, and tend to have an intense honeymoon period, and aspects of this can feel a lot like love to them. Of course with time, the honey moon period gradually fades, and then they are usually left with bitterness and disappointment. Aspects of the honeymoon period can feel a lot like love to them. The relationship tends to be very up and down, never quite finding the right balance. They experience dizzying highs and deep lows. Their relationship becomes riddled with contradictions like “I love you, I don’t love you anymore”, “Do this for me, and I will love you”, “I love you but I will also cheat on you”, “I love you, but might leave you”, “I am leaving you and you must come after me.” They become trapped within themselves. They either want to rush into marriage very quickly, or delay it completely and indefinitely. If they do get married, it’s usually because of a very strong emotional dependence on each other, and not love. They just want to be together.
Dr. Torsunov, a teacher of the vedas, further elaborates that there are 3 different variations for how root chakra couple relationships can manifest.
In the first option the couple meets in a place of entertainment and primal pleasures. They enter an intense honeymoon period and this motivates them until it begins to fade away. When it does, they start to realize that they don’t actually have that much to say to each other, that they don’t share many common interests, beliefs or values. Their interests are simply quite different and spending their free time together becomes increasingly different. As much as they try, it’s hard to talk to each other, and it’s harder still to understand each other. Over time, they begin to get tired of each other and that’s when the fighting begins. They will fight even when one of them tries to change the situation. They have brief periods of reconciliation, where they try to throw themselves into each other to get as much passion and happiness as they can from each other, while this period lasts. However, naturally, over time, their mutual sexual attraction in each other also beings to wane and they will be left with the feeling that the only stimulus they have to keep their family together is disappearing fast. The problems usually begin to arise after 6 months of living together and by 2-3 years, it would magnify into a stressful emotional crisis. They tend to be unfaithful to eachother, physically or mentally. This is usually when the love ends, and the couple separates.
In the second variation, a woman who is motivated by her root chakra, will find a man that is interested in her, and in order to avoid being alone – she will pretend to fall in love with him. Fear of loneliness motivates her, in this case. The more relationships we have in our lives, our reservoirs for romantic love begin to wane. The entire process begins to exhaust her physical and emotional resources and she finds it difficult to love a man as fully and completely as she would like to, or perhaps as she once did – and so she decides to pretend, to convince both her new man, and herself, that she has fallen in love with him. She does what it takes to make it look as convincing as possible, because she doesn’t want to be alone anymore, and she understands that her chances of happiness will increase within a family setting – because this is where the woman’s greatest karma lies. After a while, the man will realize what really happened – that she never really loved him, but simply made him fall in love with him.
This variant can be even more bitter than the first, because the initial chemistry that was present in the first option, was not there. So the couple gradually tend to grow apart.
In this option, both the man and the woman have a long history of past relationships and emotional baggage, and so mutually decide to bring their lives together and live with each other. Neither of them have much loving energy or fighting energy left so there isn’t much love or hate within in the relationship. They quite simply realize that this is probably the best opportunity for them to create some kind of harmony together, and so they do. They are tired of meaningless relationships, and they are tired of being alone. They live together, and look for satisfaction in other places – such as their job, or friendships, or drinking – but they feel sad that they didn’t marry for love. But they should realize that the type of love that will suit them love is a love that must grow, it is a love that they must create through hard work and dedication.
The Root Chakra Couple needs to:
The negative aspect of the root chakra couple is that this kind of cheap love tends to degrade your good character traits and bring out your negative ones. When this happens, each day begins to get harder and harder. The couple tend to get a point where they feel there is no way out and so take a back seat in their life. They feel an overwhelming sense of disappointment and cannot understand where it is coming from.
Remember that we can absolutely climb up our chakra levels and change the fate of our relationships, but it isn’t easy. This will require a lot of persistence on your part. The only way to move up from a root chakra relationship is through self development – by gradually working on eliminating your bad characteristics (selfishness, ego, greed, pride, anger etc) and developing your benevolent ones (honesty, integrity, kindness, caring, optimism etc).
These things are not set in stone, they are simply the tendencies of human nature – what usually will happen if neither person makes much of an effort otherwise. If you work hard on yourself, you can change your destiny and you can find happiness 🙂
Check back soon for the 2nd type of relationship: The Sacral Couple!