Heartbreak is a universal phenomenon. It is a deep, burning ache that transcends cultures, countries, age, social classes and languages. It is a thread woven into the human fabric. It moves us all.
These are words for the broken hearted….
What is Prana?
The word Prana is sanskrit for “Vital life energy”. It is the energy of life that flows through us. The cells and tissues in our body are controlled by the nervous system. If our nervous system gives of a command by way of electrical impulses, our gross body will respond to it. Our nervous system is in turn, influenced by form of light energy called Prana. Our prana interacts with our consciousness by a process called Pranamaya.
When does Prana appear?
Occasionally somebody will ask me “How do you even find time to write in your blog?” and this question is a strange concept for me. The only answer I can think of is – I find time to write in my blog because I love writing in my blog.
You can replace “time to write in your blog” with pretty much anything.
Another question I get asked a lot is “Don’t you find it difficult to take photographs and stuff? How do you have time to pursue photography as a hobby? Like, don’t you have to take your camera with you when you go places?”
Once again, same answer. I find time to take photographs (and not only take the photographs, but all the other many aspects of being a photography freak – which is finding time to generate inspiration for a photoshoot, to edit my photographs, to organize my photographs, and to share my photographs) because I freakin’ love taking photographs!
Is it difficult for me to do it? No. I love it, so it’s easy. I love it so taking my camera around with me is my pleasure, not my job. It’s so simple.
You can replace “time for writing in your blog” to “taking photographs” to “cooking” to “reading” to “exercising” to “dancing” to pretty much anything you do just because you like to do it.
How do you make time for it?
You make time for it because you like to make time for it. That is the single best incentive for making time for something.
You don’t really consider “making time to shower” or “making time to eat” because you like doing them. You like the end result (being clean and full!) and perhaps you even like the process too.
So the excuse “I love to ____, but I don’t have time for it” just doesn’t cut it for me, sista!
This essentially translate to “I think I enjoy doing ____, but at the moment I have to prioritize something else in my life.”
And that’s okay too! We only have 24 hours in the day, and we have to choose wisely how we want to spend our time – it is an important life skill to learn. Another important life skill we have to learn is to stop making excuses.
So if you are still stuck under the belief that you don’t have enough time or space in your life for something you would like to do, here are some tips to create some more space in your life:
How to make time for the things you love to do:
We are all waiting for that magical time in our day when suddenly we are inspired to do something more, to create something more, and to become something more. Mentally, we can rationalize our end-goals, quietly contemplating and affirming to ourselves that “Yes, I need to stop smoking. I need to start writing my book. I need to exercise more, meditate more, eat more consciously, study harder, become a better husband/wife, change my wardrobe, create my business, write a blog, wake up earlier and de-clutter my home.”
Theoretically, everything seems reasonable, do-able, and you already know that simply doing any one of these things would enhance your quality and experience of life. It’s a no-brainer.
There are usually two major excuses we use to deflect and deny our right and responsibility to make any of these things happen, and they are:
1. I don’t have enough time.
2. I need to wait till I am inspired to do it.
Today we are going to talk about number 2. Inspiration. It’s a funny thing. Here are some things I know about my experience of inspiration.
1. Don’t wait to “get inspired” because you’re going to be waiting a long time.
I know we all want that Lightening-Bolt-Epiphany-Esque-“O.M.G I am so inspired”-Experience, but I believe that inspiration only comes and grabs in that manner you only about 10% of the time. The other 90% of the time, we have to get off our booty and find it.
If I waited till I was truly inspired to write a blog post, cook, make life changes, meditate, work, and exercise – my life would be a dark and bleak place to hang out! Inspiration isn’t a very reliable or tangible substance to make major life decisions from.
It’s great, but not substantial enough for me to wait around for it all the time.
2. Inspiration usually comes at inappropriate times.
Let me tell you somethin’ about that 10% of the time when we do feel majorly inspired; it usually comes at somewhat inapprorpiate times. For example, I am always so completely and magically inspired to write a great blog post when I’m eye-deep in studying for a test tomorrow. How convenient!
Inspiration may come when you are busy with something else, caught up in a prior commitment, or doing things the way you have always done them. Then you get inspired to do something in a slightly different way – WOAH! It’s the universe offering you another option and saying “Hey listen, I know you’ve done things this way for a long time, but how about trying it this way? Or how about putting your attention on this instead? Or here’s a great idea for you – use it!”
It’s at that time you have to make your call. What are you going to prioritize? This is your decision. If you decide to say “pass” on this wave of brilliantness, you have to accept that you might not get that inspired feeling for it again – although that doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t act on it at another time. If you decide to prioritize your inspiration, you may create something beautiful and worthwhile, but it may be at the expense of something else.
There is no right or wrong answer; it is just a question of your priorities.
3. Inspiration doesn’t get things done. Hard work does.
Inspiration is a great force to kick-start new projects, but inspiration alone does little to get the task done. Inspiration acts in short and powerful bursts. Hard work is sustained effort to create progress. Inspiration without hard work is futile.
If you are writing a book, it is unlikely you are going to be super inspired about every single chapter. It is even unlikely that you will be inspired to write every single day.
When you start a new exercise program, it’s very exciting and it’s easy to feel extremely committed – but that quickly goes away. You don’t get the body of your dreams because you were “inspired” to exercise every day. You get the body of your dreams because you worked hard, and you made a commitment to your inspiration – even if it isn’t there in all it’s glory every single day.
4. If you want to get inspired, start doing what you want to do.
The wonderful thing about Inspiration is that you can create it. You can create that feeling of inspiration by action. Simply ask yourself “What do I want to do?”.
“Want” is key, because “want” implies that you choose to do it.
Choose one “Want”. The most important thing to you right now.
Now, if it isn’t clear already, ask yourself “What can I do now to start making it happen?” and start.
You might not “feel” like it. You might not even know exactly how to start. But start anyway. Take some small steps towards this want.
After a while of sustained action, ideas, inspiration and magic are going to start opening up to you.
For example, if you really want to start a blog, but you don’t know what you want to write about, or what kind of blog you want to have – just start a blog. Sign up on wordpress. And start writing. It might not be clear at first, but over time, it will become clear, and you will become inspired
I am a huge fan of “Things to do before I die” lists, making them, reading them, and hearing about other people’s lists tpp! I think it’s important for all of us to take the time to make one of these lists in our lifetime (ha! maybe we should put that on our list too). Just to get down on paper some of the cool experiences we want to, well, experience, in our life time at some point.
This is really so much fun to do and easy to get carried away with. My friend Jennifer even wanted to LAMINATE her list.
I decided to put together a list for women. I did my research on the internet for some kick-ass experiences we women could use in our lifetime, and also put my little brain and heart to work.
I hope you like it.
- Meet your teenage idol/crush/obsession.
- Get a drastic haircut.
- Develop your public speaking skills.
- Dance in public (while sober).
- Dance in your underwear, singing along to your favourite song, hairbrush in hand.
- Forgive your parents.
- Leave when it is time to leave. Even if you don’t want to, but because you know it will be good for your heart.
- Do something your friends wouldn’t approve of.
- Learn another language.
- Live in a foreign country.
- Attend a conference/workshop about something that truly fascinates you.
- Learn how to cook your partner’s/children’s favourite meal wonderfully.
- Date somebody younger than you.
- Date somebody older than you.
- Travel alone.
- Take yourself out on a date.
- Learn how to walk in heels.
- Learn, understand and enjoy a sport: either watching or playing – or if you’re a total rockstar – both!
- Fall hopelessly head over heels in love.
- Ride on the back of a motorcycle.
- Wear a dress and make it rock!
- Attend at least one yoga class.
- Spend a weekend at a luxurious spa.
- Give a talk in front of many people.
- Learn to breakdance (hehe!)
- Find clothes that truly flatter your body.
- Play an extra in a movie.
- Sing boldly.
- Write a love letter.
- Write a love letter to yourself.
- Learn to drive.
- Wear matching underwear.
- Do a striptease.
- Love yourself!
- Accept compliments gracefully.
- Go out regularly without make up on.
- Get professional photographs taken of you by a photographer you adore.
- Learn how to apply make up.
- Have a slumber party with your girlfriends.
- Compliment a total stranger.
- Embrace your role as a mother, daughter, sister, wife.
- Live by yourself.
- Go on a real dinner and movie date with a real gentleman.
- Get a brazillian wax.
- Learn how to flirt. And do it well!
- Read. Smart is sexy!
- Get to the weight you want to be.
- Decorate your own home.
- Learn to cook well.
- Do something you never thought you could do.
Have you ever watched the movie “Crash” (I totally recommend it). I absolutely loved the soundtrack from the movie – this one song in particular:
In the deep – Bird york.
The best part of this song, was at the end of it, the woman’s voice that whispers “If you want to be given everything, give everything up.”
I think this is the perfect summery of what it means to be in a state of receiving. To not be attached to one outcome in particular.
Sometimes we cling to steadfastly onto what we believe is the “highest possible outcome” for ourselves. We think – this is how it has to be. Anything that deviates from this – is “Wrong.”
And sometimes these things don’t work out, and we are sad and all kinds of empty. And we wonder “what went wrong? Why doesn’t anything work out for me?”
When my troubles come rolling in, and things don’t go the way I planned, and I question myself and the universe, Miss Prescot gently reminds me that “So things didn’t happen the way you planned. This is exciting. This means that even the highest vision you had for yourself is not as high and great and as mighty and as wonderful as the one the universe has for you. So now all you have to do is wait, and be surprised!”
If you want something, and it just doesn’t seem to be happening – it’s time to let it go. It’s time to let it go so that it can actually happen for you.
It’s kind of like closing your eyes and telling someone “you can get me any gift you want for Christmas, but only if it’s a red car!!!”
Letting go is scary. I’ll be the first to admit that. It’s hard to embrace nothingness – but this is where all good things bloom.
It’s like leaving a long term relationship that just isn’t right for you anymore.
And not having somebody else you may be interested in.
And not really having any real plan about what to do now, other than loving yourself.
It’s like leaving a job that you thought was right for you (And maybe was right for you for some time – but perhaps not any more).
And not having another one ready to go.
And not really having any real plan about what to do now, other than experiencing yourself.
It’s that moment of emptiness and possibilities. You’re living on the edge. You’re living on the horizon of your life. And for that moment – however long this moment may last – you are completely open. You are open to a higher reality.
It is in this moment that something new is about to open up for you, but we so rarely step away from our shore, that we don’t see the ship coming in.
Be ready to let go.
Even the things you think you need.
Especially the things you think you need.
Life is dynamic. Allow it to change. And become ok with it.
It’s a moment of living on the brink. You may be full of fear. But if you just experience the fear, and let it wash over you, what will remain is passion, creativity, and inspiration.
Please never be afraid of recreating yourself. This is your birth right. We are bornmto be free, with this innate ability recreate ourselves in order to experience ourselves in a different way. Just because you’ve done something this way for a long time, does not justify doing it forever.
What can you let go of today?