How to make a decision when you’re confused

Last week, I talked about how important it is to do the right thing at the right time in your life. But what do you do when you’re confused about what the right thing is?! That’s what I wanted to address in the video I made for you this week.

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How to develop your psychic powers

So you want to develop your intuition?

If you are searching for how you can develop your intuition, you are going to find a lot of ambiguous sources that cannot tell you EXACTLY what you need to be doing to build your intuition. You kind of get the idea – you need to meditate or something. But WHY. And HOW. And WHAT skills do you actually have to develop to build your intuition? Somehow you need to start using that 6th sense of yours, but how do you even do that? That’s what I hope to answer today.

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My intuition: What I can do with it

I wanted to talk to you about my experience with my intuition, which is what I use to do readings. Because I do readings, does that mean I can do readings for myself? Does it mean that I can see my own future? Let’s discuss.

First of all, let me point out that I wasn’t born with a magical ability to see spirits and make predictions about the future. I didn’t have any prophetic dreams (Ok, I’ve had 2, but that was later in my life and it was pretty freakin’ cool!) and I wasn’t born with a crystal ball. I know some kids are, but I was not one of them.

The only difference between you and I (under the assumption that you are not a professional intuitive reader. I could be wrong!) is that have learnt how to connect with my intuition, and also, how to connect with yours.

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What to do when you ask your intuition big questions and you don’t hear shit back.

“Spirit guides, oh knowing universe, higher self, GOD….I really need some help. Should I leave my job? Like, is that the right decision for me? I wanna leave but I don’t know if I should. I just need your help. Do I do it? This has really been troubling me. I feel so lost and I have no idea what the next step to take in my life is…:( Is it the right time? I’ve been meditating and stuff for months now, so I think you owe me an answer. So, what do you think? Shall I do it?….”

…..*Silence*

“Awesome. Thanks for the help….NOT” 

Sound familiar?

I try to live my life with a constant connection to a part of me that is in touch with my intuition and the bigger picture. I make my decisions from this place. I make my life changes from this place. I love and I heal from this place. I find comfort and reassurance from this place.

But is it always easy? No. Even after years of cultivating my connection with my intuition, there are still some areas of myself that I have trouble accessing because my ego gets in the way.  It is hard to ask questions about issues that are extremely personal to me, because I am so involved in them myself, and I acknowledge how easy it would be for my hopes and my fears to manifest in my response. This makes it lose its validity. Instead of focusing on what is, I find myself thinking about what I want or what I am afraid of.

Another challenge that many people encounter is that they ask questions and feel that they “just don’t hear anything!”

I’ve had plenty of times like this. When I ask a (conveniently very) important and life changing question for myself and listen to the great white noise of the universe. Nothin’. I got nothin’.

Come on, Intuition! Where are you when I really need you? Where are you for my BIG life questions like – is this relationship right for me? Should I change my courses at school? Should I move away? What actually makes me freakin’ happy?

I know you help me out when I need to know if I want a jam sandwich or a peanut butter sandwich at 3:00am in the morning (always go with jam. its stickier and messier but more fun), but what about when I need to know what on EARTH I am supposed to do with my life?

These questions are hard to answer. And it can be frustrating, when, even after weeks, months, years of meditating and developing your spiritual connection to your gut instinct- you still find yourself talking to yourself, when all you really really need is someone to yell the answer into your face.

Something like “SERIOUSLY? WE’RE GOING TO HAVE THIS CONVERSATION AGAIN? DON’T QUIT YOUR JOB YET, YOU’RE GOING TO GET A REALLY GREAT JOB OFFER IN NOVEMBER ANYWAY, SO JUST WAIT IT OUT. IT’S CALLED PATIENCE. HAVE YOU HEARD OF IT? GET SOME. ALSO, STAY WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND BECAUSE HE’S A GREAT GUY AND YOU KNOW IT, AND IN THE MEAN TIME STOP BEING SUCH A WHINY B****. GET A GRIP, AND GO MAKE YOURSELF A JAM SANDWICH.”

Yeah, you know what I’m talkin’ about.

But unfortunately, the yelling doesn’t always come. Neither does the “answer”. And you are left contemplating if all this intuition stuff really exists.

I have found a solution.

Sometimes all you need to do is ask the right question. When you ask the right question, your life will move into the answer.

Instead of straining to “hear an answer”, you can allow your life to become the answer.

By asking the right questions – your life will reflect your intuitive knowingness of the answer.

Here’s a simple meditation I am doing a lot these days.

::A meditation to ask the right questions::

  1. Begin by getting comfortable in your meditation spot. Close your eyes and count back from 100 to 0. Focus on your breathing and your counting. If your thoughts drift, simply bring them back to the present moment.
  2. Bring your awareness to each part of your body one at time, from your toes to your eyebrows, to the very top of your head.
  3. By this point, you should be in a place of calmness and stillness. Here, you must ask your question. This question can be as closed or as open as you like it be – that doesn’t matter – the only requirement is that you should ask the question that you are yearning to find the answer for.
  4. Bring yourself out of your meditation gently.
  5. Go out and live your life like the rockstar that you are, and keep your self aware of small changes that will occur in your life in the next couple of days. You will notice a heightened sense of awareness, a feeling of calm and “knowingness”, and your life will begin to reflect the very answer to the question you have asked.

So if you are wondering “What the heck kind of question is she talking about?” let me explain. Here are some examples:

What is my joy?

What am I passionate about?

Is this relationship/job/opportunity right for me?

Should I quit my job?s

What am I supposed to do with my life?

How can I re-structure my business?

How can I earn more money?

How do I let go of anger/resentment/sadness/grief/a lost love?

How can I make my life more peaceful?

How can I help these conflicts heal?

How can I be a better girlfriend/wife/husband/sister/brother etc?

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Now, I can’t ask the question for you. You got to do it yourself. And you got to live the answer yourself too.

In the next few days to a week, notice your life shift remarkably to show you a truth about yourself. Notice your life opening up new opportunities for you to find your joy, restructure your business, let go of anger, stay or leave in your relationship, heal your conflicts.

As an example, if you are asking a question about a situation and wondering if you you will ever feel okay about it- if it is acceptable and if the present conditions will heal – you may notice that in the next few days you feel completely calm and resolved. A relieving sense of inner peace and satisfaction will wash over you, and you will know that, yes, maybe things are difficult now, but one day, things are going to be peaceful. That you can say resolute in your decision to stay, because all will be well.

However, if you feel the opposite, and in the next few days after asking your question, you notice that new issues keep coming up, struggles, and just a general feeling of discontent – take it as a hint from the universe, that perhaps conditions are not favourable for you after all.

Just be open, and aware. And let your life move naturally, and effortlessy, and never be afraid to see what you have always been shown. It will be for your highest good.

Life Challenges: Play to win, don’t play to avoid losing

Imagine you are in a batting cage, and you have balls being hurtled towards you, and you just keep knocking them out of the park in a frenzy. You don’t know how many balls are coming, or how long this game is going to go on for, and you’re not even sure how long you can last here. It’s exhausting. The balls are coming from all different directions with no real pattern to them. You are using so much energy and attention on just avoiding getting hurt, that you don’t take the time to regroup, to question your gameplay and game tactics, or to even change your stance.

Instead of taking this approach to life, we could stop for a second, and figure out which direction these balls (life challenges) are coming from (and realize that there is actually some kind of organization amongst the madness), and how many balls are coming and at what speed. With this in mind, you can approach this game much better. You will actually have a chance to play to win instead of playing to avoid losing.

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How to meet your spirit guides through meditation.

NOTE: This is a very old post that I wrote about the meditation that I used to connect with my own spirit guides. Since then I have learned many new techniques and skills in order to perfect connection with the divine. Now, when I read this post I realize how primitive and basic this level of understanding and connection was. There are also some things to be wary of when trying to connect with your spirit guides in this way alone. I would like to redirect you to my my updated post on how to cultivate intuition:

 Click here: How to develop your psychic powers

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So you want a reading?

That which must be will be.

Accept situations so you can move forward.

This is a page from the book “The answers” by Neil Somerville. It’s a book where every other page has an answer. You hold the book in your hand, ask your yes no question and open it at a random page. The idea is that you will attract the answer that you need to see. I love this book, and the concept – filled with  many meaningful quotes and proverbs. Today I held the book in my hand and I asked that I would open it to a page that would have the perfect message for a random reader of this blog.

So this one is for you. I hope this is what you have been needing to hear. I hope it resounds somewhere deep inside you. This is for you.

 

So you want a reading?

I am now taking bookings for readings again, and I am very excited for it. I am back in action! It has been a very hectic transition for me since September where I moved to Ireland from Canada. Left my friends, family, home and work behind, and created a new life for myself here.

Now it is time to create space in my life for something that is very important for me; my work.

So I apologize that it has taken me this long, but it is something I needed to do. I am very grateful for all you who have supported me the whole way, always being so patient and understanding.

But now I’m back!

So if you are interested in getting a reading, here’s what you need to know:

What is a reading?

A “psychic” or “intuitive reading” is a way for you to check your spiritual mailbox. I’ll do it for you, and if you are interested, I’ll teach you how to do it yourself. (Give a man a fish, feed him for the day, teach a man to fish, feed him for his life!)

We all have spirit guides and angels – this our spiritual cheerleading team up in the ether. These are the guys who know you to your potential, they know your life plan, your life purpose, they know your future, know what you need to do to start feeling more authentic, more real, more happy, more YOU. They know what challenges are coming up for you, they know what blessings are on their way to you. Everything you need to hear somewhere deep inside of you – your guides have the answers.

And your guides are a part of you, so really, you have the answers.

An intuitive reader can help you hear and interpret their messages.

During a reading, I will connect with your spirit guides and your energy, and see what is in store for you. What’s coming up for you, and what changes you need to make in your life. I can see the highest potential for you and your amazing life- and your guides can help you find ways to get there.

A reading is a very positive experience.

What does a reading look like?

It will be like a conversation, and I am the translator. I use the tarot cards in order to help me organize all the messages I receive for you. The cards help me decide which are the most important ones you need to know, otherwise we could be there forever!

You are free to ask questions throughout the reading, about anything. And if I can answer it, I will answer it. And if I can’t, I’ll let you know.

Is there anything I can do to prepare for a reading?

It’s nice to be in a receptive state for a reading. I would advise thinking a little bit about the kind of questions you would like to ask. If you don’t have any questions, that’s fine – perhaps you have different “areas” of your life you would like a conversation about (eg. Finances, career, relationships, your spiritual growth and practice). Or perhaps you don’t have anything. This is fine too.

Just bring an open mind and an open heart. And positive expectations.

And your smiling face.

Will you tell me my future, omg!

You could say that. I will tell you the most likely outcome based on your thoughts right now. It’s more like “if you keep going on this path this is what is most likely to happen.” Or “if you make the changes you need to make, this is what is most likely to happen.”

So of course, if you change your thinking, you can change your future. So your future changes all the time, because you are the creator of it.

This is good thing, because that means that if what I see for you does not deeply resonate with you, you can make changes, and change the future.

And if you like it, keep on doin’ what you’re doing!

So can you see things that have not happened yet but will?

Yes.

What if I hear something really scary or mean or that I don’t want to hear, that I am just not ready to hear?

You won’t. As I said, a reading is a positive experience. I can tell you about upcoming challenges, but that isn’t scary. It will be more like “you might want to look out for …financial struggle coming up in the month of May.” Or “try to keep things slow paced for the next two weeks”

If you have a dream that is set in your heart and you are afraid that it isn’t actually right for you and I will tell you that and crush your hopes – don’t worry, I won’t. Your guides will only tell me the messages you are ready to hear. And we can learn from any situation.

If you are in a relationship with this dude you really really like but you’re really scared I’m going to tell you it isn’t going to work, don’t worry, I won’t. Why? Because

  1. I’m not an idiot.
  2. All relationships can work, and I realize this. But both people have to want it.
  3. Sometimes a bad relationship is something we have to go through in order to learn our lessons.
  4. If I tell you it is unlikely to work, it will be because you know it already.
  5. If I tell someone that this is their soulmate relationship, that person may take it very seriously. Maybe he or she will avoid a break up that needs to happen because “that psychic told me that they are my soulmate”. Or maybe if they do break up, it will always feel “Wrong” because “that psychic told me that they are my soulmate!” And if I tell someone that this is not their soulmate relationship, if the couple are staying together, that someone may be thinking “but that psychic told me that they are not my soulmate – what if there is someone else???” I’m not an idiot.

I can tell you the challenges in the relationship, and also the blessings. I can tell you what I see coming up for you. I can tell you the changes you both need to make in order to learn what you have to learn from this relationship.

Don’t be scared. Seriously.

And as for other scary things. There will be none of that. So relax.

AWESOME! So how much do you charge for a reading?

A one hour reading is $100 Canadian dollars (I accept cheques, Interac, and paypal (soon))

A half hour reading is $50 canadian dollars.

A one hour reading is 70 euros.

A half hour reading is 35 euros.

What if I am a student and I cannot afford this?

Here are some options:

–         Find another intuitive reader that is charging a rate that is more comfortable for you.

–         Hang around, because I like to give out free readings a lot!

–         Consider getting a half an hour reading for 35 euros/50 Canadian dollars.

–         Budget! 🙂 If you really would like a reading, you could make it happen.

Do you do e-mail readings?

No.

Do you do telephone/skype readings?

I normally do both telephone and skype readings, but I have a very unreliable internet connection at the moment, which means I am only able to do telephone readings.

I also cannot make outgoing calls from my landline, so you will have to call me. Long distance charges may apply.

I’m really sorry about this. I am manifesting a better skype connection.

Do you do in-person readings?

Absolutely. If you are in the area (Galway, Ireland) we can arrange an in person reading.

Is there a difference between getting a telephone reading or an in-person reading? Which is better?

Neither is “better”. It feels the same for me. Some people prefer in-person readings because you can feel “closer”, but that is just a personal preference and does not really affect the quality of the reading.

What if I won a free reading with you through this blog?

I have not forgotten about you and we will be in touch 🙂 Congratulations.

OK so what do I do to get in touch with you now?

e-mail me at malavikasuresh@live.com.

What if I have more questions about readings in general?

e-mail me at malavikasuresh@live.com or submit an anonymous question at www.formspring.me/malavika and I will respond to the questions and post them in a new Q&A post here on the blog.

What if I am unreadable 😦 ?

Let me be the judge of that!


 

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In other news, I went to bookstore and bought two new books:

Lolita – Vladimir Nabokov

Fight club – Chuck palahniuk

I just seriously miss reading. Reading for fun. And I want a book I can really sink my teeth into.

If you haven’t read it already, you should read The Time Traveler’s Wife. It’s my favourite fiction! IT IS SO CAPTIVATING AND AMAZING. And if you happened to see the movie, please realize the movie was just an awful interpretation of the book. Read the book!

Oh and check out my new pillow cases. Pretty, pink, light and luxurious! Perfect. I loveeee new sheets. Slipping into new sheets after a shower = heaven.

 

 

You know what else I love? Having roommates who I can do readings on. We usually do it around once a week. The three of us cuddle up on my bed and get my cards out. And then I read them both.

And then I train them to read me! Marie is in training at the moment and she’s already very good. It makes me sooooo happy and soooo proud to see my girls do that for me 😀 They are very quick learners and soon they are going to be VERY good! Oh the perks of living with a psychic 😉

I just had such a “PROUD” moment when I was sitting on the bed a couple nights ago, listening to Marie telling me what she “see’s happening for me in the future.” It was Marie’s turn last time, so Michelle didn’t say much but she would agree and offer support if she saw a similar thing too.

And for myself, it’s great to have people close to me that I can practice on all the time without feeling weird or creepy. So it works well for all of us.

 

And on that note I’m going to get back to my saturday, which involves:

cleaning, studying (*YUCK*), grocery shopping, reading, and friends.

Have a happy weekend everybody 🙂

 

10 ways to improve your life today

1. Overcome a fear. Nothing sets a standard of success quite like doing something you never thought you could do.

2. Create an exercise schedule. Get that beautiful body of yours moving. Join a dance class, yoga class, pole dancing class, a circuit training group, or the gym. Start going on morning runs. Create a tailor made exercise schedule that gets you excited and paves the path to the body of your dreams.

 3. Cultivate new, richer and deeper relationships: Make new friends. Make it your intention to try to meet as many new people as possible. It might feel a little “ugh!” at first, but after you get in the rhythm of it, it will become a part of your day, lifestyle, character – that you really enjoy look forward to! I try to sit next to people I don’t know in my lectures so that I can get to know who they are and make new friends. And I’m not talking about making a bunch of meaningless acquaintances (your life is busy enough already), but I mean really getting to know a person – who they are, what they do, what they want, what makes their heart beat faster. When you start connecting with all individuals on this level, you seem to generate a bottomless supply of love and compassion to share with all those you come into contact with.

4. Set goals for yourself. Don’t tell me you’ve already set goals for yourself at the start of the year. Goals MUST be reviewed or else they become non-existent. Did you know that a goal that has not been thought about/reviewed in over 3 days, is equivalent to have never having set that goal? That’s crazy! Have a very short compact list of your short term goals with you to review every single night (Should take about 20 seconds out of your night), and spend a little bit more time for a bigger long term and short term goal review every week (Should take about 2 minutes).

5. Spend less time on the internet. Spend less time doing the things that take away a lot of your time and energy without you realizing it.

 6. Wake up earlier than you usually do. I recommend 5:00am. Make more time for yourself.

7. Implement a new habit. Meditation, yoga, clean-as-you-go, prioritization etc. What would you pick? (See: https://malavikasuresh.wordpress.com/2010/08/01/10-habits-you-need-to-cultivate-in-your-life/ for more ideas!)

8. Write a letter to your future self. This activity is one that has been a totally awakening experience for me. I write a letter to myself every new year/birthday. I also really take the time to meditate on and with my future self to find out who that awesome lady is and what changes I have to make to become her with the most ease and grace.

9. Redecorate/recreate your spiritual space. Feng-shui up your crib. Change things around. Switch things up. Keep it exciting. The shift in physical energy will result in a tremendous breath of breath air through your life.

10. Go to bed 15 minutes earlier each night until you find a time that suits you. This is not so that you can get more sleep, but so that you have the opportunity to do so if you wish. The main reason behind going to bed 15 minutes earlier is that you can begin to create more time to wind down, and get some more “me-time” going on in your day. Take this time to relax, meditate, journal, paint your nails, eat a snack, be in silence, practice some yoga, do a quick clean, or simply just “Quieten” down your busy household. If you have a family, you could make this into a fun game or challenge, where everyone has to try their very hardest to make the deadline of 9:45pm (or whatever time you guys decide), and from 9:45 time it is strictly RELAX time. Avoid being on the phone/on the internet/watching TV after this time, to really give your mind a chance to quieten down. (I really struggle with this one…!)

12 things I want to teach my children

1. There is no right or wrong, there is only action and consequence.

Rather than following the right or wrong, punishment or reward paradigm, I want to try something a little different. I want them to witness from an early age that their every action has a consequence that they are responsible for. Instead of giving myself the duty of rewarding their good behaviour and punishing their bad behaviour, I will let them do it themselves (am I just lazy? I don’t know). A parent yelling at a child “NO! THIS IS WRONG. I FORBID YOU TO DO THIS AGAIN” has very little effect in comparison to the quiet contemplation of a child, who decides that “Hmm, this didn’t really give me exactly what I was looking for. Let me try something new.”

As a mother, it will simply be my job to nurture their ability to see the long term and short term consequences of their actions. I will take the time to clearly explain to them that if you study, you will get good grades. If you treat your brother with respect, he will respect you back. If you don’t share your toys, people probably won’t want to share with you either. Remember; the consequence should be rewarding or punishment in itself. It doesn’t need my subtitles. 

If my babycakes is frazzled about what to do in some area of their life, instead of telling them what they should do, I will instead ask them what it is that they want in this situation. Once we can see what they want, we can decide on appropriate action to take.

2. You are responsible for every single thing in your life.

This is probably the most important one ever. The worst outcome would be a child who does not believe they are responsible for their own life. And I believe it is up to the parents, in the beginning stages at least, to instil within them, a sense of responsibility and accountability; to teach them that all of these things in their life, both the wonderful and the terrible are there because of and for them. And to teach them that it is because of this that they can change everything, if they wanted to.  

3. Learn how to make yourself happy and make yourself feel loved.

Don’t wait to get approval, happiness, support, love, wonderment, safety, joy and companionship from somebody if you haven’t yet been able to provide those feelings for yourself. Never live your life depending on somebody or something to inject you with your daily dose of happiness and fuzzy love feelings. These feelings come from within. Learn to do things every day to make yourself happy. Learn to do things every day that show yourself you value and love yourself deeply – whatever these things may be for you.

Remember that you hurt yourself the most when you fall out of love with yourself, not when somebody else does.

 4. Believe in something (believe in yourself)

I will never dictate a religious pathway for my children to follow, but instead leave the option open to them. We can grow together without religion if they so please. I will allow them to explore what “Religion” is in our world today and decide if it is something they want to be a part of, or perhaps if there is an aspect of it they like and want to incorporate into their life.

When I say “believe in something”, I don’t necessarily mean “believe in the holy spirit” or “believe in Allah” or “believe in Hinduism”. What I am trying to get across is the power of having a simple belief system in SOMETHING. Some kind of faith.  To believe in the goodness of people, to believe in kindness, to believe in responsibility, to believe in your dreams, and most importantly to believe in yourself.

Everybody connects in a different way, and who am I, as a mother, to define to them how that connection should take form.

I know there was a period in my life when I totally rejected religion and “God”, but it was all part of my process.

Once, during my channelling sessions, the ascended master Krishna came through to me and said “Don’t live to believe in me. Believe in yourself. As a result of this, you will believe in me too.”

 5. Serve others.

I have been told that this is the single most precious joy that we can receive in our lives (though it may not always feel like it.) I want to teach my children to live to serve. To always ask of themselves “What can I do for you/this now?” and to do the best they can.

 6. Be confident.

Be confident. Because, why shouldn’t you be confident. Live your life with vigour and purpose. You are here for a reason. You are important and valued and cherished. You will do great things in your life. If a child believes these things to be true, then why wouldn’t they be confident? The problem with developing confidence is that people want to do the “outer work” (walking with your head held high, attracting people,  public speaking, networking etc) without spending enough, if not any time on the fundamental “innerwork” of confidence – which is to implement positive self-affirmations into your subconscious way of thinking about yourself.

I don’t believe that all children are born world-leaders (although they could do this if they wished), but I do believe that if a child is given a sense of purpose, and security, and encouragement from a young age, they will not be able to help but feel confident in who they are. And this is the most important confidence one can cultivate.

 7. Follow your heart.

Always follow your heart. Listen to your head, but follow your heart. Marry the girl you love. Find her. Knock on her door and tell her that you love her. Chase the career of your dreams. Do what feels good and right and true to you. Make mistakes and learn. Love yourself. Believe in miracles, and create them by following your heart. Do what you need to do. Be impulsive at times. Be adventurous, daring, bold, exciting. Show up to your life! Be fully awakened and present, and experience the ever expanding ecstasy that is trapped in every single moment. Dream big and exciting dreams, and always believe in your hearts ability to love more than you think it can.

 8. Be disciplined and focused.

Be a man/woman of your word. Be the kind of person that makes things happen. The only way to be that person is to be focused and disciplined in your life. Keep your promises to yourself – these are the most important promises that you simply cannot afford to break. Have a schedule and stick to it. Make rules for yourself and live those rules. Define your values and let your life be an example of them. Never let a dream go unawakend simply because you didn’t work hard enough.

 9. Empower others.

I want to teach my children to live their life to empower others. I want to teach them to make every single person who comes to them, leave a little happier, richer, more secure, more empowered, more inspired, more in control, more beautiful, than they were. If we can make just one person happier every single day of our life, imagine how many people who would have changed in 5 years, 10 years, 20 years, a life time? Always be a motivator of other people’s dreams, and always make people feel great about themselves. When you meet somebody new, ask yourself “what makes this person incredible and how can I let them know?”

 10. Be kind, gentle, compassionate and loving. Treat everybody with respect.

No other character traits are quite as important.

Be kind. Do lovely things for another person.

Be gentle. Be gentle in all that you do. Every good thing can be done in a quiet, gentle, and humble way.

Be compassionate. Take the time to understand where people are coming from, and that everybody is doing the best they can with what they know. Listen to people. Listen to their story.

Be loving. Learn to love another human being with all your heart and soul. Love with no limitation and no bounds. Show them you love them every day, in your actions, in your speech, and in your thoughts (Trust me, they can feel it).

Treat everybody with respect. Every single person in this world deserves to be treated with respect. Why? Because they are alive and doing this “life thing” even when times get hard. Everybody must be respected. The king, the queen, the garbage collector, the school bully, the homeless man on the street. Every single person is valuable and special and without them, nothing would be the same ever again. Everybody’s opinions deserved to be listened to, and everybody’s will deserve to be manifested.  If you live within this paradigm, you will instantly find that the world supports you in all that you do. You will find that the whole world listens to your opinions, and manifests your every will.

 11. Understand that there is never an excuse for violence.

I wish to teach my children a violent-free life. I will always ask them to choose a non violent approach in all that they do – whether that be non violent communication and non violent action. There is NEVER an excuse to yell (unless there is a train hurtling towards their beautiful mama) and there is NEVER an excuse to hurt somebody with your words, and there is NEVER an excuse to hurt somebody physically. If you do something, no matter how justified you feel, if somebodies feelings are hurt, then you have done wrong. You just didn’t love yourself quite enough to win that argument. This is a hard teaching to follow, as it is so easy and sometimes so scarily acceptable to behave violently to people (even loved ones – especially loved ones.) Anger is a natural emotion but there are ways to deal with anger that are loving and caring. I may not know exactly what they are right now, but we will find out together.  

 12. Work hard and be good at what you do.

No matter how spiritual, kind, compassionate, loving and generous my children are, nothing will supplement the power of hard work. And hard work is hard. But children are champions and can be trained to work hard and to think little of it. Setting a standard of excellence from a young age is vital to being able to achieve a standard of excellence in their later life. I just want to teach them that whatever they do, do it well. Be the best at it. Whatever their dreams and goals are – which I acknowledge may well be (and are welcome to be) very different to mine – all I intend to teach them is to be the best at it. If you want to be a gardener– be the best gardener around. If you want to be a student – be the best student around. If you want to be a daughter, or a son, be the best one.  If you are a husband or a wife, be a good husband, and be a good wife. Don’t half ass things. Be excellent at what you do, and open doors for yourself through the universe.