How to start enjoying the things you hate to do

Today I want to talk about how to start enjoying the things you hate to do. Here’s 2 reasons why I think this is worth your consideration.

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Get Inspired: 4 insights on inspiration

We are all waiting for that magical time in our day when suddenly we are inspired to do something more, to create something more, and to become something more. Mentally, we can rationalize our end-goals, quietly contemplating and affirming to ourselves that “Yes, I need to stop smoking. I need to start writing my book. I need to exercise more, meditate more, eat more consciously, study harder, become a better husband/wife, change my wardrobe, create my business, write a blog, wake up earlier and de-clutter my home.”

Theoretically, everything seems reasonable, do-able, and you already know that simply doing any one of these things would enhance your quality and experience of life. It’s a no-brainer.

There are usually two major excuses we use to deflect and deny our right and responsibility to make any of these things happen, and they are:

1. I don’t have enough time.

2. I need to wait till I am inspired to do it.

Today we are going to talk about number 2. Inspiration. It’s a funny thing. Here are some things I know about my experience of inspiration.

1. Don’t wait to “get inspired” because you’re going to be waiting a long time.

I know we all want that Lightening-Bolt-Epiphany-Esque-“O.M.G I am so inspired”-Experience, but I believe that inspiration only comes and grabs in that manner you only about 10% of the time. The other 90% of the time, we have to get off our booty and find it.

If I waited till I was truly inspired to write a blog post, cook, make life changes, meditate, work, and exercise – my life would be a dark and bleak place to hang out! Inspiration isn’t a very reliable or tangible substance to make major life decisions from.

It’s great, but not substantial enough for me to wait around for it all the time.

2. Inspiration usually comes at inappropriate times.

Let me tell you somethin’ about that 10% of the time when we do feel majorly inspired; it usually comes at somewhat inapprorpiate times. For example, I am always so completely and magically inspired to write a great blog post when I’m eye-deep in studying for a test tomorrow. How convenient!

Inspiration may come when you are busy with something else, caught up in a prior commitment, or doing things the way you have always done them. Then you get inspired to do something in a slightly different way – WOAH! It’s the universe offering you another option and saying “Hey listen, I know you’ve done things this way for a long time, but how about trying it this way? Or how about putting your attention on this instead? Or here’s a great idea for you – use it!”

It’s at that time you have to make your call. What are you going to prioritize? This is your decision. If you decide to say “pass” on this wave of brilliantness, you have to accept that you might not get that inspired feeling for it again – although that doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t act on it at another time. If you decide to prioritize your inspiration, you may create something beautiful and worthwhile, but it may be at the expense of something else.

There is no right or wrong answer; it is just a question of your priorities.

3. Inspiration doesn’t get things done. Hard work does.

Inspiration is a great force to kick-start new projects, but inspiration alone does little to get the task done. Inspiration acts in short and powerful bursts. Hard work is sustained effort to create progress. Inspiration without hard work is futile. 

If you are writing a book, it is unlikely you are going to be super inspired about every single chapter. It is even unlikely that you will be inspired to write every single day.

When you start a new exercise program, it’s very exciting and it’s easy to feel extremely committed – but that quickly goes away. You don’t get the body of your dreams because you were “inspired” to exercise every day. You get the body of your dreams because you worked hard, and you made a commitment to your inspiration – even if it isn’t there in all it’s glory every single day.

4. If you want to get inspired, start doing what you want to do.

The wonderful thing about Inspiration is that you can create it. You can create that feeling of inspiration by action. Simply ask yourself “What do I want to do?”.

“Want” is key, because “want” implies that you choose to do it. 

Choose one “Want”. The most important thing to you right now.

Now, if it isn’t clear already, ask yourself “What can I do now to start making it happen?” and start.

You might not “feel” like it. You might not even know exactly how to start. But start anyway. Take some small steps towards this want.

After a while of sustained action, ideas, inspiration and magic are going to start opening up to you.

For example, if you really want to start a blog, but you don’t know what you want to write about, or what kind of blog you want to have – just start a blog. Sign up on wordpress. And start writing. It might not be clear at first, but over time, it will become clear, and you will become inspired

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Get inspired!

♥ malavika

The secret of not being a lazy-ass

My source of inspiration when it comes to productivity and getting-things-done-ness is my mama. She’s my go-to gal when I want to get something done, and I’m not sure where to begin. I think of this as a the “mom-factor”, and personally, I think it is some kind of magic spell. She can cook my favourite meal down to perfection and fix the TV and DVD player when it isn’t working. She can sew on buttons and fix rips in clothes, and also carry really heavy things (which I am just so awful at that sometimes when she asks me to carry something heavy and I just physically can’t at all, for a moment we both wonder if I am really her daughter 😛 ). My mom, like most mom’s have a lot of duties, that do not simply begin and end in the house. They work outside the home and inside the home. They juggle so many balls at once, just to make sure everything is moving forward; that meals are on the table, that everyone gets to their soccer practice/dance recital on time, that their husbands know what the heck is going on, that the dog has been walked and fed, that the house is clean, that guests feel warm and welcome and that relationships are maintained. WOW, that is a lot. I hope I can be half the woman she is when I have created my own family dynamic. (I can see her grinning as she is reading this. Hi mom.)

What stops us from being the most efficient and productive version of ourselves?

There are two ways to categorize our sense of “tiredness”, and that is; times when we are mentally tired, and times when we are physically tired.

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Get productive!

 

I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking “Hmmm I needs to gets me some of that!”

Everyone’s thinking it. Productivity. Everyone wants it. Everyone wants to do it. Everyone wants to feel like they are doing enough, or that they are doing something at all!

But life is hard and life is fast and it is so easy to get overwhelmed. Pretty soon you don’t even even have a to-list-, let alone know where yours starts or ends.

But productivity is simple. There is just one word associated with it: DO.

As Nike says, just do it.

Here are some tips to be more productive with your time.

 

Work with your Most Important Tasks.

Every morning wake up and write down your three most important tasks of the day. The three things that, come what may, you HAVE to get done. These are not the things you would naturally do because you have to (Such as going to work/school/eating), but those other bad boys that keep coming up on your to-do list day after day.

So write down your top 3. And then make it your life purpose to get these things in your day. If nothing else – these three items must be completed by the end of the day. If you’re a superstar, you can try to get all three items done before midday, if the task permits.

 

Work with your energy levels.

Work with your energy levels, not against them. We go through troughs and peaks in our energy throughout the day, and  it’s different for each person. A high energy period is a period of time where you are pumped and ready to do “high energy” tasks, that requires more thought, attention, energy, focus, physical input etc. “Low energy” tasks are tasks that do not require too much attention and care, but can still be “done”. Examples of low energy tasks are – booking appointments, making phone calls, responding to e-mails, laundry, cleaning etc.

The secret to being productive is to not do high energy tasks all the time. The secret is to understand your own personal energy levels and patterns through out the day and work through your tasks appropriately. For some people, mornings are very high energy time periods for them, and so they can get lots of great productive work done during the early hours of the morning.

Then by afternoon, when their energy levels begin to dip a bit low, you can switch over to more low energy tasks. You’re still being productive. Just at a different pace. A pace that works for you.

The resistance comes when we try to do high energy tasks in a low energy time (trying to study physics during afternoon nap time? Nuh uh. Not gonna happen!),  or even when we do low energy tasks during a high energy period (being stuck responding to e-mails/phone calls when I’m super inspired and ready to go out there and kick butt. No way!).

So first things first, ask yourself “am I high energy or low energy right now?” and act appropriately.

 

Batch like tasks together.

Batch similar tasks together – such as making phone calls. Make all the phone calls you need around the same time. You will be on a particular frequency when you do a certain task, so it makes sense to similar tasks while you are sittin’ at that frequency too.

 

Generate an energy wave.

Here’s a great trick that seriously works every time! When you have a task ahead of you that you just can’t seem to get started on, what you need to do is go and sit down and set a timer on for 5 minutes.

And for those 5 minutes, all you are allowed to do is to think about the task. Nothing else.

An example for this would be cleaning my room. For those 5 minutes I will think about cleaning my room. I’ll practically clean my room in my mind. By about 2 minutes I am ready to go, but I force myself to stay there for the whole 5 minutes.

Within these 5 minutes I generate so much energy within myself, that all I want to do is clean my room. And the great side effect to this trick is that you will most likely complete this task in a fraction of the time you thought it would take.

It really works! Try it!

 

Just put in the time.

Sometimes our impending projects become way too big that we are too scared to even start. We don’t even know where to start. We don’t know when it is finished. It’s just this big cloud of impending doom. Well that attitude ain’t gonna get us anywhere.

Whenever I panic about the enomity of the task ahead, and how I don’t even know where to start, Miss Prescot will always say to me “Malavika, just put in the time.”

What does she mean by that? She means that when a task is too big for us to get our cute little heads around, all we need to think about is putting in the time. Don’t think about how much you even plan to achieve in a certain time period – but just put in the time.

If I’m writing an essay, I don’t have to think “okay I am going to finish half the essay in 2 hours. GO!”, instead all I think is “Ok I’m going to spend 1 hour on this essay.” That’s it.

And then I spend one hour on the essay.

And I feel better. And I can breathe a sigh of relief. Because I’ve done something. I’ve done something other than just sitting there freaking out about it. I’ve made progress. I’ve taken the first step.

And if I can do that, I can do anything!

So next time, instead of panicking about HOW MUCH you have to do, JUST PUT IN THE TIME.

If you put in the time, everything else will fall into place.

 

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The other day I was meditating and I was talking to Miss pdubs about how I felt like my to-do list was building up and I was getting caught behind. And how it was overwhelming. And how I needed to make a plan.

She gave me the best advice. She said:

“Malavika, having a plan is important. And you should definitely take the time to make one. But at the end of the day, the secret to getting ahead is to start NOW with what you have.”

That’s it. Don’t wait for other resources to fall into place because we already have enough to make a difference now. We have what we have. And we have right now. This is our moment of power.

What can you do right now that will make your life a little bit easier, a little bit more productive?

Start now.

Just do it.

 

Make your life extraordinary today.

Just think, if you were to use all of your talents to the maximum of your ability, if you were to enjoy every moment of every day, if you were to see the truth in every moment, if you were to prioritize and do what’s important when it is important, if you tried your very hardest in all that you do, if you actually did everything you needed to do, if you loved everyone exactly as they are, just think of how amazing your life would be. Think of the kind of things you would be achieving, the mountains you would be climbing, the things you would be learning, the relationships you would be enjoying.Make your life extraordinary today.

This is something I wrote myself and stuck on my wall. It reminds me of how different my life could be if I actually lived to my full potential. I hope it inspires you the way it inspires me every time I read it.

Remember that it is our job to use each moment to make our lives extraordinary. It is our responsibility to live with integrity and zest. Our lives are what we make it. If you’re not getting 100% back, perhaps it’s because you’re not putting 100% in.

I know there are many instances in my life where I know I am only putting in around 20%-50% of the effort something requires. But that will get me no where in my life, and I know it.

There are three types of people in this world.

There are the kind of people who refuse to learn from their mistakes. Who keep attracting the same drama, the same issues, the same problems over and over again. The kind of people who do always less than what is required. Sometimes someone will call them on it, but most of the time, people have just learned to stop trusting and expecting anything much from them at all.

Then there are the kind of people who do the bare minimum. They get by on the bare essentials. They do whatever they need to do in order to not cause a scene, or stir up questions around the work they are doing. They work 9-5 and struggle to find the time and energy to pursue their passions. But they have a feeling that there’s gotta be something more to this life.

And of course, saving the best for last – The people who succeed in life are the ones who go the extra mile, who stay the extra hour, who work hard, and who love deeply. And hard work is hard. It’s mean to be. They always make sure they have time for the things that matter to them, because they don’t see any other option. They do things that are fun or lead to fun. They are disciplined and focused, with soft cuddly edges. They are focused on quality and strength of relationships rather than numbers and figures. They put in 100% most of the time, but not all the time, because let’s face it – they are human too.

They fail sometimes sure, but they always get up again. They learn from their mistakes. They set big goals for themselves. They love a lot. They have a big enough heart to love other people and also themselves. They believe in you, but only because they believe in themselves first.

 

I know which kind of person I want to be.

Do you?

 

 

How to get things done to get ahead!

We’re getting to that point in the year where things begin to get quite overwhelming. Winter is setting in, deep and dark. Christmas is approaching, along with New Year – a time where we yearn for things to be different.

For students, this is a time with finals, group projects, and assignment deadlines are looming over our cute little heads like a dark cloud.Everything is happning at once, and this can be overwhelming.You miss one class. Or forget to do one thing on your to-do list. And before you know it, you have an endless list of things to do that never seem to get done. You don’t even know where to start. You don’t een know how to start!

So, how do you feel on top of things?

First of all, where is this feeling of being overwhelmed coming from?

– You have a lot of “unfinished business”. You’re making a mess.

Everytime a new task comes your way – whether its something that needs your action or simply your attention – you open up something new. And the more open things we have, the more stressed out we become. Until we have an efficient way or collecting, organzing, and working through our mess, we’re just going to get more and more stressed out!

The way to eliminate this feeling is to firstly, decide what you want to do with the task, and then, if you can, do it!

– You don’t have a efficient means of collecting this “unfinished business” in one place.

Instead, we try to grasp at things and “remember” them for a more appropriate time. You write a few tasks in your calender, some in your PDA, remind your best friend to remind you of something later, and most things we try to simply just “remember”. But this is incredibly inefficient and is the leading cause to our lack of productivity. And not only our lack of productivity, but even just that nauseating feeling we get sometimes when we just don’t even know how to start. How do we know what to do next if we don’t even know WHAT we have to do? What we need to do, is create a better system for collecting your tasks and to-do’s.

The best advice I have heard on this step is to find just ONE place to collect it. Two if you must. But let the second one be a “Transitionary” collector – a place where things go to be processed before making it to your primary collector. For example, you may have a notepad to write down all incoming tasks in your day (perhaps because it is more convenient to carry around a notepad), and then when you decide to review your tasks, you move them into your PDA or whatever it is you kids play with these

– You are not being as productive with your time as you should be because you do not know what the first step to take is.

This one is a no brainer. If you don’t know exactly what to do – and I don’t mean just some vague idea of the direction you’re going – I mean knowing exactly the next action step you must take – then the chances are, you ain’t gonna take it. You’re gonna waste your time doing the less important tasks because the next action step might be more obvious. You’re gonna call a friend. You’re gonna talk about how you are feeling so overwhelmed in your life. You’re gonna spend hours on facebook.

I know the story.

 

So, let’s fix it!

You have a lot of unfinished business – you’re making a mess.

Yeah. This is life. Welcome.

First of all, get rid of any unrealistic expectations you have about how “Finished” your business should be. There will always be something to do. Fact.Your inbox will never be fully empty. Maybe for a few moments. This is the dynamic nature of life. It’s a cool thing, really.

Our unhappiness doesn’t come from the fact that we have a lot to do (infact, we can derive a sense of purpose and drive from feeling that we have steps to take forward), but it is the fact that we are not efficiently dealing with the things in our inbox.

Try to see it like this: everytime a new incoming tasks comes to your attention, a new box opens up. Every single thing that you need to “do”, delegate, or simply attend to in some way- you’re opening a new box. And note that you’re not labelling these boxes. You’re just bringing in these half opened boxes into your brand new apartment. And you’re making a mess! Using this analogy, it seems obvious to work through the boxes, and start labeling them, and then figure out where to put them. You keep em’, or you get rid of em’. It’s simple. If only we could do this with our mental tasks.

Well, hey, you can!

So, let’s begin.

Remember that as the number of half opened boxes increases in your mind-apartment, the more stress you feel. Thre more stress you are under, the higher your chances are of feeling overwhelmed.

 

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1. Collect all information

I want you to take 5 minutes out of your life right know to brainstorm everything you need to do today, tomorrow, this week, in life, in general.

Don’t worry about putting things into any order or even making sense. Just write. go. go. go!

Trust me, this is going to feel real good!

Your cute little head can’t handle any more information!

This is good for your soul.

My physics professor would say “Even if you don’t have to, Solve quadratic equations – it’s good for your soul.”

I’m not convinced. Yet.

(You can even put in random important dates etc. Whatever “information” is in your mind that you need to remember and do something about)

 

2. Split up these tasks into categories.

So now let’s make sense of this mess.

This is equivelent to labelling the boxes “cutlery” and “books”. School? Work? Relationships? House stuff? Hobbies? Extra curricular ? Sport? Spirituality?

 

3. Go through each one and ask yourself these questions:

Now that you’ve organized everything, you need to decide what to do.Go through each task that comes up on your list:

Can I take action on this within the next five minutes?

If Yes – do it! There’s no time like the present, y’all!

If No – Here you can either:

a)  Delegate it (is there someone else who can do it for you?)

b) Or you can defer it (put it on your calender for later date. Schedule it in.)

For example – if you really need to study physics (Ummmm personal example) like BADLY, but you can’t do it within the next five minutes, then I would schedule it in for tomorrow at 6:00-9:00pm at the library. Now it is no longer on my mind and causing me stress, because in my soul, I feel like I have done something about it. I’ve taken care of an important matter. I’m going to fix it. Don’t worry about it.

c) Or trash it! Do you really really have to do it?

There are many times we take on menial tasks in our life that we just can’t afford to spend our time, energy and money on. Why is this on your list? Maybe out of your good will and good heart, but is this the best thing for you? Perhaps not. Get comfortable with saying no, and not feeling like a failure. If there is something that has been on your to-do list for days, weeks, and months, you really need to ask yourself these questions. Is there a reason you keep putting it off? Why? Do you really need to do it? If you don’t, then be gone with it! Hasta la vista, baby.

 

Now go through your calender, with all your new scheduled tasks in.

It must feel good. Dance classes, assignment deadlines, library study parties, dinner dates, family outings, things to do.

You should feel a big weight off your shoulders.A big cause of stress is not all the things we have to do but our disorganization of it.

Having everything written down on your calender- a place that will be effective in reminding you of where and when you need to be somewhere doing something that eneds to be done, will feel great!

Now start doing the things on your list!

come on.

Have will power.

Keep your word.

Get things done.

 

Today.

 

10 habits you need to cultivate in your life

Happy August!

As I prepare for my next big step of moving out of home(with both excitement and terror), it got me thinking about habits that I want to make sure that I implement into my life on a day to day basis. I believe that behind any great leader is a solid set of values, and a concrete set of habits that are created from these values that they uphold. As a child we are taught consistently about good habits, but as we grow up, we forget to think of habits as something that we can or should have. “Real life” happens, are we’re busy keeping up, that we forget to create a strong and sturdy foundation of peace and discipline to fall back on. Welcome to the world of good habits. As you read through these lists many things will make us go “I know, I know, I’ve heard that a million times already!” but do we actually and consistently make it a point to incorporate that into our day? Probably not. So let’s change. These are my top 10 list of easy habits we should be implementing into our lives NOW. Now, I say “easy” because none of them require extra money or resources. Just you and your beautiful smiling face.

Remember it takes 21 days of consistent action to make or break a habit. You cannot efficiently create a new good habit without trying it consistently for 21 days.

1. The rising early habit.

Not only is there something very magical about the world at 5:00am, it is also the most fertile time to plant your seeds for your day. The world is quiet and waiting for you to fill it with wonderful things. Rising early at 5:00am gives you ample time to greet the day. It gives you time to practice your gratitude, eat a lovely breakfast, meditate…etc. In fact, most of the habits listed in today’s post could be achieved within this habit. Rising early means you are in charge of setting the tone for day. If your current morning ritual is non-existent, or involves chasing your kids around the house, frantically making lunches, or slurping down your coffee as you run from room to room looking for your shoes, then you are setting the same kind of intention for the rest of the day. You are saying to the universe “this is what I do. Give me more of this. Pleaseeee!” So allow this new found treasure chest of sacred time be used to create a peaceful and connected morning ritual. Watch the sunrise, drink orange juice (with pulp. Yum), read a book, review your intentions for the day, meditate, start on your work for the day, paint, practice your sodoku skills, travel to work leisurely, eat a fulfilling breakfast, kiss your children on the cheek and be present.

The wonderful thing about waking up at 5:00am is that no matter what happens in your day, you still got that small window of time for yourself. And that is enough.

2. The meditation habit.

Though all of these habits are powerful, this one in particular has manifested miraculous changes in my life. The art of meditation is one that must be mastered for your happiness, spiritual growth, and peace. Get in the habit of meditating twice a day every day. When I first started my journey, I would meditate for an hour each session, but this is not always possible in “the real world”. Do what you can when you can, but as long as you are consistent, you will notice the benefits. 10-20 minutes is enough.  You may want to follow along with a guided meditation if you are new to meditation (I recommend chakra clearing by Doreen Virtue), or simply use the time to sit in silence and allow your thoughts to pass without expectations or judgement. Easier said than done, I know.

Once you start working consistently with this habit you will notice profound changes in your life. You will start waking up in the morning, your head and heart clear and light and free, and with the deep knowing that everything is as it should be. And so it is.

3. The learning/reading habit.

Our minds are active things. It wants to soak up all the experiences of the world, pick it apart, understand it, conceptualize it, and eventually feel okay with it. Cultivate the habit of learning something new every day. Reading is a big part of this, as this is where most learning takes place. Read from many different genres – really stretch yourself. Many people feel bored and frazzled in their lives when they feel as though they are not given the freedom to simply learn, to expand their horizons, to see what else is out there. So make this habit in your top 10, and never be left with that feeling. Take at least 10-15 minutes every day to learn about something new, or to spend some time just sinking your teeth into a good book.

4. The gratitude habit.

Remember what I said in the last post about how the universe shows that that it has received your gratitude? By giving you more things in your life to be thankful for! In order to truly live this truth, it only makes sense to make it into a habit. Practice the gratitude habit. I make a list every day of three things I am most grateful for that day. It keeps me in line. It makes me realize that no matter how yuck my day is, I am still very blessed and very loved.

5. The intention habit.

Every single morning take a moment to breathe deeply and set your intention for the day. We often acknowledge that behind every great deed is an equally great intention, but also tend to forget to apply that on a day-to-day basis. Do you want your day to be great? Well, what is your intention for it? Without setting intentions for your day, you may have good days, great days, bad days, and down right sucky days. Your days may be aimless, surprisingly good or bad, or just autonomous. Your intention might be BIG ( I intend to connect with my father and begin healing the relationship with him) or smaller (My client told me that her intention for the day was to simply take more time to pet her dog more.) What ever it is, it means your day has a focus, it has a goal, it has an aim, a direction, and you will the be the soul proprietor of the joy that follows its accomplishment.

See www.intent.com for some great ideas for intentions.

6. The clean-as-you-go habit.

Wow. This one is tricky (for me). What’s the one way to avoid a horrible mess and the end of a week? …To clean as you go! Don’t let a mess build up, don’t let the dishes pile up in the sink, don’t let the laundry overflow the basket. Clean. As. You. Go! Every night before you sleep, and every morning before you start you day, take a moment to go on a cleaning spree. The better you get at this habit, the faster and more efficient these sprees become. As with every area of our lives, we tend to become overwhelmed when things build up, so this habit is a wonderful way to nip that tendency in the bud. Make it a point to do a fast routine clean:

Every morning

Every evening

Every time you leave the house.

As Oprah once said (I think she may have quoted someone else, but who cares, it’s Oprah!) “your home should rise up to greet you.”

7. The exercise and healthy eating habit.

There isn’t much to be said about this habit other than- the better you are feeling about your body, the healthier your feel, the better your life. There is no mistake about it. Don’t make it a “diet”. Make it a lifestyle choice. A diet, to me, symbolizes temporariness and short term satisfaction. But a lifestyle choice means long term results! Make healthy eating part of your life. It’s not a diet. Because a diet means it’s a choice. It’s not a choice. It is who you are. And you are one healthy superfox!

The exercise habit is equally important. Find an exercise routine that works for you. It might be bedroom-yoga, it might be a poledancing class (saucy!), or it could be an hour at the gym. What ever it is, make it consistent, and you will not only notice results, but find that you are happier and more balanced.

8. The prioritization habit.

What are the most important things that you NEED to do today but really DON’T WANT to do today? The items on your list that are urgent, and necessary, but that you are so willing to forget about? What are those things on your to-do list that show up every single day, every single week? Write them down. Make it a habit to do your most important tasks FIRST thing every day. Every morning (or the evening prior) make a list of the three most important tasks for the day, then make it your soul intention, your absolute reason for living, to complete these tasks – preferably by 12:00pm that day. Not only does it set an amazing standard for your day (it really can’t go down hill from there) but it also makes sure you are having the impact you need to have in your life because you are getting things done.

9. The goal-review habit.

Here’s the secret to achieving your goals, people. Keeping track of your goals! If you set a goal on new years and don’t really think about it till December, quietly saying to yourself “Oh yeah, remember I said I wanted to do that. Oh well. Maybe next year!”

That isn’t a goal. That’s a wish. That’s a wish made for the sake of new years. That’s worse! A goal is an active and open project you consistently work on, and review until you achieve it. This means that technically ALL goals can be achieved, unless of course you no longer want it. So make it a habit to make a list of your top ten goals for the year, month, 6 months, 5 years, and review it once a week. If I ask you “What are you goals for this year” and you can’t list them off the top of your head, they are still in “dream” form and it is unlikely you will achieve them. A goal is a measurable thing. So, do you know what your goals are?

10. The lookin’ and feelin’ hot habit.

As I said in the previous post, get in the habit of feeling HOT. Get in the habit of making a real effort every day to look hot/sexy/fiiiineee/pretty/beautiful. Dress the part. If this was a  movie about your life, would you be wearing an unflattering brown shirt and “mom jeans”? Would you be wearing what you are wearing right now? (If yes – then good job!!) Be comfortable, by all means, but make a consistent effort to look, feel, smell, dress real good. Wear your best underwear, use that expensive perfume, try a different (And perhaps shocking) shade of lipstick, get on a three step facial routine (cleanser, toner, moisturizer). Practice positive affirmations, love your body, feel GREAT about who you are and everything about who you are.

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Though I work hard at living a well-rounded and fulfilling life, there are still a few of those habits that I probably don’t maintain as well I should. My main one being “the clean as you go habit” and “the prioritization habit”. Man, those ones are hard! But, that won’t stop me from trying! I wish you all the best of luck in implementing these habits into your day to day life!

love,

m

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May your days be gold