Spirituality + Intentional living + Conscious Motherhood
It has been a while since I have written something. I think that this is because all my posts are rooted in my own personal revelations and realizations. I share things my life is showing me and lessons I am learning.
I guess…sometimes it takes me a while to learn something. 😎
But I have come to understand something about life and I am glad to be sharing it with you.
While studying for my exams, it took every ounce of strength to NOT write a blog post. I was so inspired with different ideas to share with you. Now that I’m free, I have “writers block.” Really, brain? Seriously? Is this how you are going to be?
Nevertheless, I am powering through, inspired by conversations I had yesterday.
It is easier to live with grace when everything is going well for us, when life happens the way we would like it to happen, and when our energy levels are high. Bad days, on the other hand, well they take a certain level of consciousness to live through with grace.
When we don’t really know how to manage ourselves, bad days can really take over our life. They hold the power to completely change our perspective of people and life. They can feel bottomless and endless.
But there is a golden darkness in these bad days. And once we learn to handle ourselves, once we learn to live with grace through days like that, we find that dark days give you a chance to rest, reflect, and nourish your soul. They give you a chance to face lessons, and work through karma.
To live with grace means to live with peace; to be unstirred by the energetic ups and downs of our system, until eventually, they begin to stabilize and you reach a peaceful and joyful level at all times.
I believe that in order for our emotions to stabilize, we have to learn to be more sensitive to ourselves. To observe the ebb and flow of our inner environment, and to be able to adapt to what our inner self needs from us at a particular time.
So whether you slip into days of melancholy, or you are truly heartbroken after a tragedy, we have to be able to recognize when we need a different level of care, and we have to be able to give that gift to our selves.
From time to time I receive e-mails from readers of this blog. I think that is a beautiful thing and I am humbled that you would share such intimate and beautiful aspects of your life with me. With that, I have noticed that there a couple of questions that resides in the hearts of many people!
One commonly asked question is about love and relationships. Should you stay or should you leave? Is it “spiritually okay” to leave? How do you generate the internal strength to stay and persevere in love?
The other commonly asked question is in regards to your dharma in life and how to discover it. I have gotten e-mails from so many people who are worried that they are talentless and without a calling in life. And that is what I want to talk about today.
Continue reading “What is your dharma and why can’t you find it?”
Sometimes we feel compelled to put labels on ourselves, on other people, on situations. I think this is how we attempt to make sense of life.
I think the first mistake we make is feeling we need to define ourselves and others.
The second is letting ourselves be defined by others.
Continue reading “Defining yourself and being defined by others”
My sweet little Deki playing in the bubbles a couple of summers ago. Bliss & bubbles.
I am coming to understand in my life that there is a fundamental difference between pleasure and joyfulness. I realized that for me, I need to live a joyful life, and not one of chasing pleasure.
They are not necessarily the same things.
The thing is, pleasure makes us believe we are joyful, for that moment at least. But all we are doing is reacting to pleasurable things and then think we are joyful. This is not joyfulness. This is reactivity.
This is a post I’ve been meaning to publish for a long time as it is a personal one for me. It’s something I am putting my focus on at this point in my life. It’s all about developing a strong sense of self. When I think of a strong sense of self, I think of emotional maturity. I see it as a strong beam of light from within me – instead of a flickering flame. Over the course of a few posts I will explore 10 truths of having and maintaining a strong sense of self. In this post I want to describe each one briefly, and in the following ones I will go into some other ones in depth with specific things we can do to achieve them! Wow, haven’t I got so much fun lined up for you 😉
What we need to develop is a strong sense of self. A powerful inner strength that resounds from somewhere deep within you.
You have a strong sense of self when:
Continue reading “10 truths of having a strong sense of self.”
The problem with dreaming big – well it’s usually somebody else’s problem. Have you ever noticed that? So perhaps a more correct title for this post should be “The problem with other people’s problem with you dreaming big”.
If you can dream it, you are expressing a part of your true potentiality. Every dream and every thought has the potential to manifest as a reality. So, if you can dream it, you can do it. But will you do it? Well, that depends on a number of things, but in the end it all comes down to you. Maybe you will. Maybe you won’t.
But potentiality is potentiality. Don’t put a ceiling over yourself. And definitely don’t let someone else do it for you.
So what’s the big deal about dreaming big? What’s the “problem” with it?
Who doesn’t believe you could do it? Tell me. I’ll kick their butt.
Just kidding! (seriously though, I could!)
There’s a quote “The one who thinks it cannot be done should not interrupt the one who is doing.”
Next time you are the recipient of some unrequested disempowerment, criticism and “I don’t know why but I just don’t think you’re gonna be able to pull that one off!”-ness, I want you to really ask (to yourself or out loud) “Excuse me, but who are you?”
Seriously, who is this guy? This guy who believe they know you to the full spectrum of your awesomness and potential. Someone who knows exactly what is and is not possible in the universe. In your universe.
This person to me does not seem like an expert to me. When I meet someone of this type, all I see is somebody who has their own personal reservations about their own life, and their own big dreams.
A true expert inspires others. A true expert will never make you feel like you can’t do something. No matter what that something is. Some one who is truly an expert at what they do does not suffer from scarcity thinking. They realize that there is enough talent to go around. They realize that there is no shortage of good things, good luck, or world-rocking personal accomplishments to go around. Everyone can have some! A true expert just does what they do without worrying about putting you down, or offering unhelpful criticism (criticism that doesn’t really tell you HOW to improve). A true expert will inspire you to reach your big dreams, because their dreams don’t cast a shadow. A true expert can always help you because they have unlimited resources because they got soul, yo.