During my 6 week stay in India, I decided I would immerse myself in another shambhavi mahamudra mandalam – where the kriya is practiced twice a day for 40 days. I was first initiated into this kriya in 2016, and have been practicing it on and off since then. Off – because I spent a large part of these two years pregnant twice, and found this kriya aggravated my morning sickness – making it very hard to complete. I wrote about the first time I did a 40 day practice here. Reading back on that account, I realized that I mostly just shared my experience with Isha’s Inner Engineering, but didn’t speak much on the actual kriya itself. I guess I just didn’t have much to say, because if I did, I probably would have said it! All I can say now is that this 40 day experience was a completely different experience to the first time I did it – which only demonstrates to me how each time you engage in your spiritual practice, it has the potential to become deeper and more saturated. My first 40 day cycle was really a beautiful introduction into a new direction of being and life, and I have maintained this direction for the last 2 years. It changed my life. This 40 day cycle went deeper, somehow. It changed my life in a different, more potent way. It changed me.
From time to time I receive e-mails from readers of this blog. I think that is a beautiful thing and I am humbled that you would share such intimate and beautiful aspects of your life with me. With that, I have noticed that there a couple of questions that resides in the hearts of many people!
One commonly asked question is about love and relationships. Should you stay or should you leave? Is it “spiritually okay” to leave? How do you generate the internal strength to stay and persevere in love?
The other commonly asked question is in regards to your dharma in life and how to discover it. I have gotten e-mails from so many people who are worried that they are talentless and without a calling in life. And that is what I want to talk about today.
So you want to develop your intuition?
If you are searching for how you can develop your intuition, you are going to find a lot of ambiguous sources that cannot tell you EXACTLY what you need to be doing to build your intuition. You kind of get the idea – you need to meditate or something. But WHY. And HOW. And WHAT skills do you actually have to develop to build your intuition? Somehow you need to start using that 6th sense of yours, but how do you even do that? That’s what I hope to answer today.
This is an oldie but a goldie. I wrote this post in 2010 and it is about the timeless nature of getting grounded.
I decided to re-write and repost it.
I use the word “grounded” a lot, and to me it means: getting real with yourself, and maintaining balance and harmony. You don’t have to be in a “stable life situation” to be grounded. Being grounded comes from within, and though it can be impacted by outward circumstances, it does not have to be. It is not a pre-requisite. You can go through a painful divorce, or a stressful period at work, and still be grounded. It’s going to be harder (than doing it when you’re on vacation – for example), but it is possible.
There are three general areas in our life that we can be grounded (or ungrounded): emotionally, physically and spiritually.
Usually when one of them gets a little bit out of whack, the other two also tend to follow. It kind of sucks that way. But that does also mean that if you start making improvements in one area, you will feel little changes in other areas too!
Getting emotionally grounded gives you more happiness.
Getting spiritually grounded gives you more strength in sense of self.
Getting physically grounded gives you more vitality and energy.
I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking..hmmm now how do I get me some of those?
Today we are going to talk about getting grounded Emotionally and how you can do it.
Read on to find out how to tell if you are Emotionally ungrounded….dun dun dun!
One of the most frequent questions I get asked during a reading is “What is my life purpose?”
Have you ever thought about it? What am I here to do? Is there a purpose for me at all?
Your life purpose and your day job
Some people believe that because they are not in a job that they enjoy, they are not living their life’s purpose. This may or may not be true, but it is certainly not an absolute.
I don’t believe your day job has to be your life purpose, but rather your life purpose is a cumulative sense of spiritual integrity – a sustained feeling that what you are doing matters, that who you are makes a difference, and that you are living the kind of life you deserve.
Your life job may be your life purpose. But more often than not your day job could serve as a vessel for you achieve your life purpose. Your day job could provide you with all the learning and growth opportunities you need in order to achieve some part of your life purpose.
There are many options. So don’t be disheartened. Your life purpose isn’t to be the “CEO of a company” or a “hairdresser” or a “engineer”. Your life purpose is more related to the impact you make on the world, and on yourself.
Your life purpose doesn’t necessarily scream at you.
If you are waiting for some kind of awe-inspiring, life-changing moment when suddenly what you are here to do just screams at you – you could be waiting for a long time.
Very few things in life are that black and white. Spiritual stability is found in the subtleties.
A good indicator of whether you are living close to far from your purpose is to check your emotional compass. Is your life leaving you with a feeling of satisfaction? Are you on your path towards what you deem is important to you?
By following the directions on your emotional compass that makes you feel good, and moving away from the directions don’t agree with you, you start to be selective about the kind of experiences you have. The more selective you can be about the experiences you choose to have, the more you bring your purpose to life.
How to discover your life purpose!:
This is my friend Arlene. She is a wonderful friend, and a great source of inspiration for me when I think about the kind of woman I would like to grow into. Before I left Canada, Arlene and I met for tea, ice cream & apricots, and some soul-nurturing girl talk.
We talked about feeling protected and safe in this world, which unfortunately is sometimes hard to do.
“Spirit guides, oh knowing universe, higher self, GOD….I really need some help. Should I leave my job? Like, is that the right decision for me? I wanna leave but I don’t know if I should. I just need your help. Do I do it? This has really been troubling me. I feel so lost and I have no idea what the next step to take in my life is…:( Is it the right time? I’ve been meditating and stuff for months now, so I think you owe me an answer. So, what do you think? Shall I do it?….”
“Awesome. Thanks for the help….NOT”
I try to live my life with a constant connection to a part of me that is in touch with my intuition and the bigger picture. I make my decisions from this place. I make my life changes from this place. I love and I heal from this place. I find comfort and reassurance from this place.
But is it always easy? No. Even after years of cultivating my connection with my intuition, there are still some areas of myself that I have trouble accessing because my ego gets in the way. It is hard to ask questions about issues that are extremely personal to me, because I am so involved in them myself, and I acknowledge how easy it would be for my hopes and my fears to manifest in my response. This makes it lose its validity. Instead of focusing on what is, I find myself thinking about what I want or what I am afraid of.
Another challenge that many people encounter is that they ask questions and feel that they “just don’t hear anything!”
I’ve had plenty of times like this. When I ask a (conveniently very) important and life changing question for myself and listen to the great white noise of the universe. Nothin’. I got nothin’.
Come on, Intuition! Where are you when I really need you? Where are you for my BIG life questions like – is this relationship right for me? Should I change my courses at school? Should I move away? What actually makes me freakin’ happy?
I know you help me out when I need to know if I want a jam sandwich or a peanut butter sandwich at 3:00am in the morning (always go with jam. its stickier and messier but more fun), but what about when I need to know what on EARTH I am supposed to do with my life?
These questions are hard to answer. And it can be frustrating, when, even after weeks, months, years of meditating and developing your spiritual connection to your gut instinct- you still find yourself talking to yourself, when all you really really need is someone to yell the answer into your face.
Something like “SERIOUSLY? WE’RE GOING TO HAVE THIS CONVERSATION AGAIN? DON’T QUIT YOUR JOB YET, YOU’RE GOING TO GET A REALLY GREAT JOB OFFER IN NOVEMBER ANYWAY, SO JUST WAIT IT OUT. IT’S CALLED PATIENCE. HAVE YOU HEARD OF IT? GET SOME. ALSO, STAY WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND BECAUSE HE’S A GREAT GUY AND YOU KNOW IT, AND IN THE MEAN TIME STOP BEING SUCH A WHINY B****. GET A GRIP, AND GO MAKE YOURSELF A JAM SANDWICH.”
Yeah, you know what I’m talkin’ about.
But unfortunately, the yelling doesn’t always come. Neither does the “answer”. And you are left contemplating if all this intuition stuff really exists.
I have found a solution.
Sometimes all you need to do is ask the right question. When you ask the right question, your life will move into the answer.
Instead of straining to “hear an answer”, you can allow your life to become the answer.
By asking the right questions – your life will reflect your intuitive knowingness of the answer.
Here’s a simple meditation I am doing a lot these days.
::A meditation to ask the right questions::
- Begin by getting comfortable in your meditation spot. Close your eyes and count back from 100 to 0. Focus on your breathing and your counting. If your thoughts drift, simply bring them back to the present moment.
- Bring your awareness to each part of your body one at time, from your toes to your eyebrows, to the very top of your head.
- By this point, you should be in a place of calmness and stillness. Here, you must ask your question. This question can be as closed or as open as you like it be – that doesn’t matter – the only requirement is that you should ask the question that you are yearning to find the answer for.
- Bring yourself out of your meditation gently.
- Go out and live your life like the rockstar that you are, and keep your self aware of small changes that will occur in your life in the next couple of days. You will notice a heightened sense of awareness, a feeling of calm and “knowingness”, and your life will begin to reflect the very answer to the question you have asked.
So if you are wondering “What the heck kind of question is she talking about?” let me explain. Here are some examples:
What is my joy?
What am I passionate about?
Is this relationship/job/opportunity right for me?
Should I quit my job?s
What am I supposed to do with my life?
How can I re-structure my business?
How can I earn more money?
How do I let go of anger/resentment/sadness/grief/a lost love?
How can I make my life more peaceful?
How can I help these conflicts heal?
How can I be a better girlfriend/wife/husband/sister/brother etc?
Now, I can’t ask the question for you. You got to do it yourself. And you got to live the answer yourself too.
In the next few days to a week, notice your life shift remarkably to show you a truth about yourself. Notice your life opening up new opportunities for you to find your joy, restructure your business, let go of anger, stay or leave in your relationship, heal your conflicts.
As an example, if you are asking a question about a situation and wondering if you you will ever feel okay about it- if it is acceptable and if the present conditions will heal – you may notice that in the next few days you feel completely calm and resolved. A relieving sense of inner peace and satisfaction will wash over you, and you will know that, yes, maybe things are difficult now, but one day, things are going to be peaceful. That you can say resolute in your decision to stay, because all will be well.
However, if you feel the opposite, and in the next few days after asking your question, you notice that new issues keep coming up, struggles, and just a general feeling of discontent – take it as a hint from the universe, that perhaps conditions are not favourable for you after all.
Just be open, and aware. And let your life move naturally, and effortlessy, and never be afraid to see what you have always been shown. It will be for your highest good.
Give people what they need, not just what they want.
All successful inventors know this. If you want to create an outstanding product that lasts, the first and most crucial aspect of it should be that people need it. If people don’t “need” you product either physically, intellectually, spiritually or emotionally – it won’t last. It may be a novelty, but it won’t last.
What do people need?…
NOTE: This is a very old post that I wrote about the meditation that I used to connect with my own spirit guides. Since then I have learned many new techniques and skills in order to perfect connection with the divine. Now, when I read this post I realize how primitive and basic this level of understanding and connection was. There are also some things to be wary of when trying to connect with your spirit guides in this way alone. I would like to redirect you to my my updated post on how to cultivate intuition: